5 Easy Ways to Uplift Your Husband

Sunday, August 14, 2016

Most days in a real and honest marriage are not picture perfect. And the many times, I am not on my A game as a wife. Some days, though, deserve a special category. Let's put these days into a category labeled #wifefail. Recently, I experienced a real life #wifefail type of moment. It happens to the best of us, I guess, but this day in particular was truly one for the books.

Imagine a bed sheet fort and a flashlight to my face as I continue this nightmarish story.

On this dreadfully early morning (4:30 to be exact), I rushed around my home in preparation for a long day at work. I opened one of the coffee shops that morning, and Gabe opened a different one about an hour and a half after me. I throw on clean cleanish clothes, brush my teeth, and bolt out of the door. About an hour later, I receive a phone call from my dear husband asking me if I have his car keys. 

Insert the surprised eye emoji here.

After fumbling around in my purse, I find that I do indeed have both sets of car keys. My husband, being the patient and problem solving man he is, quickly assures me that all is well and that he has a bike to get him to work, a bike with two flat tires I might add. 

He peddled himself to work on two flat tires and kept his job another day. 

That being said, my husband deserves some much needed uplifting! I hope your husband doesn't have to deal with an airhead like myself, but the truth is, all of our husbands are faced  with their own trials. They need a cheerleader. They need a encouragement. That, my friend, is something you can do. Even if you are an airhead who unintentionally makes your husband's life much harder! So today, I created a list of 5 easy ways to uplift your husband.

Speak Words of Encouragement

Believe it or not, your husband seeks your approval. He wants to hear and know that you are on his side, and cheering for him. Take a little bit of time to let him know how special he is to you. Whether it be in a text message or a sticky note on the mirror; cheer him on today, and be his biggest fan.

Learn His Love Language

This one is so very important if you want to make your husband feel like he means the world to you. Invest time into learning what actions speak love to him. You may be putting all of your effort into keeping a clean house and a meal on the table to uplift your husband just to find out that he feels loved when you speak words of affirmation instead.

Pray for Him

Not only can you pray for your husband, but praying alongside your husband can also be a prime opportunity to uplift your man. Praise God for the wonderful man he blessed you with, and bring his worries to the feet of the Lord. 

Praise His Efforts

Did he take out the trash? Pick up take out? Make sure he knows just how thankful and appreciative you are for all of the little things he does. Not only will this lift his spirits, but thanks to a little positive reinforcement, he just might do those things again tomorrow! But seriously, nobody wants to feel unappreciated for the work that they do.

I will be the first to admit that I can let things like work, school, house work, my emotions (I could go on and go, really) get in the way of  uplifting my husband. Sometimes we just need a little encouragement!

What unique ways do you uplift your husband each day? Where do you struggle?

For the Woman Who Thinks She's Not Enough

Monday, July 25, 2016

I wish I could come to this blog and write about how perfect my marriage is at all times. I long for the days that I can write about how even-tempered I am, or how I am always slow to anger and rational. The truth is I strive everyday to be the perfect wife in the perfect marriage, and somehow, I always seem to fall short. At the end of an argument, I often find myself wallowing in guilt and self-loathing. (This is my blog, and I am allowed to be a little dramatic.) I become plagued with thoughts like, "Why can't I be a better wife?" I mean, it really shouldn't be so hard to always be nice and friendly to the person you love most, right?

Maybe one day, I will be able to write posts about how perfect my attitude is at all times, and how my words are always encouraging, but today, that is not the case. Today, I am imperfect. Today, I fail. Today, I act like a spoiled brat. Today, I desperately need grace
On days like today I find it hard to imagine myself doing anything of worth for the glory of God. How could I possibly fulfill God's callings on my life if I can't speak kind words to my husband. How could God use someone as hopeless and disobedient as me? As these thoughts begin to surface, I am reminded that my story is not about how perfect a wife I can be. My story is not about how broken or irrational I am. My story is about God's perfection. God takes the broken pieces of us and makes us whole. We do not have to rely on our abilities to be used by God in any area of our life. He can do it all on His own. 

Wives, mothers, children,  take that weight off of your shoulders. Your story is not about how much weight you can carry at any given time. Your story is about nothing more than God's goodness. He knows what He is doing, and He alone is enough.

All Natural Deodorant

Saturday, July 16, 2016

There are many products in our lives that we tend to use out of habit and necessity. We grab the items at the grocery store that smell the best, and appeal to our eyes. For years I grabbed Secret brand deodorant off of the shelf on a regular basis. This was an item I could not live without. And trust me, you wouldn't want me to.

The problem is that many of the ingredients in these drugstore products are questionable carcinogens and allergens. Most deodorants from the drugstore, including my old favorite Secret deodorant, contain talc, aluminum, added fragrances, and more! Something about rubbing those things on to my armpit right next to my lymph nodes just doesn't sit right with me. But are there really all natural products out there that hold up all day long?

The first "healthier", non-aluminum deodorant that I purchased was Nourish Organics in the scent Wild Berries (I have since discontinued this deodorant because it contains added fragrances). I am pretty sure my coworkers hated me the week I started using this product. An hour into the day, my body odor was noticeable, and with summer quickly approaching, this was not okay! In the meantime, my hands landed back on the drugstore alternatives. I purchased more all natural products that still did not hold up to my body odor. After a miserable (for my husband) trip to the zoo in the southern heat, I knew there had to be a better answer for this B.O.

Enter armpit detox.

Seriously, don't stop reading! After some research, I found that our armpits need to be detoxed of all of the nasty chemicals before the all natural deodorants will work.

Underarm Detox:


2 Tablespoons Bentonite Clay
1 tsp apple cider vinegar
coconut oil or water to desired consistency

Combine bentonite clay and apple cider vinegar. Add in coconut oil or water until you reach a paste consistency. Once pasty, rub the mixture on underarms and allow to dry. Once you begin to smell an odor, rinse off the paste and apply an all natural deodorant. Repeat this process once you begin to smell body odor again. Your healthier deodorant will begin to last longer as the toxins from your old deodorants are pulled out. Be patient, and trust me! It works! Eventually, your deodorant will last all day long!

Get Outdoors and In Shape

Friday, June 17, 2016

I have a confession to make...

In my life, I have been to the gym countless times. I have had highly motivated and productive days at the gym, and I have also dragged my feet in and quickly out of the door of the gym before. My real confession though is that I have actually left the gym before out of boredom. I was out of ideas, energy, and creativity. My mind was swirling with all of the more enjoyable things that I could have been doing, and couldn't wait to get out.

On days such as these we basically have two options.

Option 1: Grab a bag of potato chip your way home, plant your butt on the couch, and cry about your love handles. (If you go this route, at least turn the T.V. on Grey's Anatomy so you can blame your despair on Shonda Rhimes.)

Option 2: Find a more creative way to get your workout in.

If you picked Option 2, congratulations! Treat yo self to a twinkie! (That was a test, and if you are holding a cream-filled sponge cake, you failed.)

To be honest, the gym just doesn't do it for me sometimes. Some days I need fresh air, scenery, and maybe even a friend or two tagging along for an adventure.

Need to think? Take a hike.
Need some sun? Rent a kayak.
Leg workout? Go cycling.
Arm day? Climb some rocks.

If you are bored with your workouts, do not be confined by the walls of your fitness center. With a little creativity, even taking your kids to the park can become exercise. So go ahead and leave the gym a little early today.

5 Steps to Healthier Hair

Monday, June 13, 2016

When I was in fifth grade, I started to "style" my own hair (by style I mean torture my hair with tight ponytails, tendrils, butterfly clips, and my $15 sparkly flat iron). Not long afterwards, the dissatisfaction with my hair began to sink in. The color wasn't right, it curled in all the wrong ways, and then there was the cow lick... From then on, I was constantly on the search for new ways to damage and manipulate my hair into what I thought it should look like.

Everyday we put our hair to the test and expect it to follow all of our orders. It can't be too dry, too fine, too thick, or too oily. If it is curly, you want it straight. If your hair is straight, you are begging for curls. We ladies can be pretty hard to please when it comes to those locks. Some of us even let the type of hair day we are having set the tone for the whole day! Those are some very high expectations. As a result, our hair suffers from a lot of damage. Not only that, but our hair can become more damaged, dry, and fragile as we age. We have to show our hair a little love if we want the same thing in return. I have put together a list of ways to increase the health of your hair, and repay it for all of the damage done in the past.

1. Limit the amount of heat you apply to your hair. I know I am asking a lot of you, but trust me! Excessive exposure to heat products can cause serious damage to your hair causing unwanted breakage and dryness. Give your hair "heat breaks" as often as possible, and even try letting your hair air dry instead of blow dry. I almost never use my blow dryer these days, and my hair is reaping the benefits!

2. Use a hair mask weekly. There are many hair products on the market, but the one I use is cheap, simple, and all natural. Instead of reaching for an expensive and chemical-filled hair mask at the store, try coconut oil instead. Cover all of your hair in the oil, cover with a shower cap or plastic bag, and allow it to sit for 30 minutes before washing out. Just make sure you wash it ALL out, or you will have nice, greasy hair to start your next day with.

3. Cut down your hair washing to just a couple of times a week. This one takes a little time, but with a little patience, you should be able to begin stretching out your shampooing. Use dry shampoo (you can make your own with a little corn starch and essential oils) to get help you stretch it out a little at a time. The more you wash your hair, the more it overcompensates and creates more oils. You need to train your hair to last longer between washes.

4. Get a silk pillowcase. If you notice that your hair is extremely fragile and damaged, you might try out a silk pillowcase. It is much more gentle on your hair than a cotton one, and may help you maintain a healthier mane.

5. Trim off those dead ends! I know you are probably trying to grow your hair out from the last big chop that you regret, but you do not want long, dead ends. This only makes your hair more damaged and unhealthy. Have your hair trimmed regularly to avoid breakage and split ends.

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