How To Bless Your Significant Other

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

It is easy to focus on what we are getting out of a relationship and how much we feel loved. I find myself asking how is he helping me? How is he showing his love to me? What is he doing to encourage me? I often have to redirect my attention from myself and remind myself to consider what my fiance needs to know or see from me. As women, we can become extremely emotional and selfish at times, or maybe that's just me! There are several ways that we can show our significant others how much they mean to us.

Cook Their Favorite Meal
I love cooking for Gabe! Especially since he eats frozen pizzas and McDonald's for almost every meal. I love taking the time to cook something that I know he will enjoy.

Pay for Their Meal
This might only apply if you aren't married and don't share a bank account yet. I am a southern girl at heart, and I love a good gentleman, but it is also such a blessing to your significant other when you offer to get the check once in a while. 

Write Them Encouraging Letters
I love it when I get sweet notes, and I know Gabe likes it, too. I do not do this enough, but it is a great way to show your man how much he means to you.

Make Time For Him
Sometimes I get a little busy and fail to make time for my fiance. We both enjoy spending simple time together just watching movies and eating ice cream. 

Let Him Go
We all know that our men need a little time away from us sometimes. Not only do we need to let them spend time away every now and then, but we should do so without making them feel guilty about it. Gabe always appreciates it when I am gracious with him about his time away from me. 

Next time you feel overlooked and unappreciated in your relationship, try focusing on your other half instead. Hopefully you will both be blessed by this change in attitude.

Prayers From a Bride

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

While making wedding preparations, there are endless things that require my focus and attention. There are moments when I think little wedding details are the most important thing in my life. I can quickly become consumed with the wedding monster inside of me. The "Bridezilla" mentality is real, and I have definitely had those moments.

Sometime last week I realized that I had lost my focus and was worrying about all of the wrong things. The small things seemed seemed so huge. I was stressing out about every little detail and decision that I have made up to this point, and I know I was driving Gabe nuts. I took some time to think about the purpose of this marriage and wedding, and I began praying for God to intervene.

I have created a prayer guide to direct my attention to over the next few months. You do not have to pray exactly the way I did, but this is just a guide to follow if you aren't sure where to start. The verses used can also be good to pray for anything in you life, even if you aren't planning a wedding.

Pray for Stress-Control.
"Commit to The Lord in whatever you do, and your plans will succeed."
Proverbs 16:3

Lord, I can be so naive to think that you will not take care of me and the things I stress about. Please forgive me for my lack of trust, and shape my heart into one of trust and peace. Shower me with the type of peace only you can give, and strip away all of my worries. You will provide me with all that I need. Thank you for taking care of my problems of all sizes.

Pray Against Selfishness
"Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God."    
 Corinthians 10:31
"I will praise you, O Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify your name forever." 
 Psalm 86:12

Your word tells me that my purpose is to praise YOU. My relationship should glorify YOU. My future marriage should glorify YOU. And even my wedding should glorify YOU. God, please remind me that this isn't just my day filled with whatever I want. This day, just like every other day, is for you. I release this day to you.

Pray When You Feel Overlooked
"Now this is the confidence that if we ask anything to His will, He hears us."
1John 5:14
"I cried to the Lord with my voice, and he heard me out of His holy hill."
Psalm 3:4 

There are times when I just want people to hear me and listen to my ideas. This doesn't always happen, but I pray that I would remember to come to you. You are the ultimate listener, and the best giver of advice. I pray that I would seek your approval above all others. While planning my wedding, I feel like I need constant attention and advice, and you are the only one who can fulfill this need for me. I pray that I would  not have the desire to put that kind of pressure on any of my family or friends. You are enough for me, God. Please continue to remind me. 

Pray for a Correct Perspective
"Yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes." James 4:13
"How frail is humanity! How short is life, and how full of trouble! Like a flower, we blossom for a moment and then wither. Like the shadow of a passing cloud, we quickly disappear." Job 14:1-2

Sometimes, I feel like my wedding is the most important thing on the planet. Humble me, Lord, and remind me of what is most important. This day is only one day of my whole life, which in its entirety still does not even compare to eternity in Heaven with you. Give me perspective each day as I plan each detail. Remind me that this is just one day.

Pray to Remember Your Purpose
"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." 
Matthew 6:33
"Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not men." Colossians 3:23

My purpose is not to have the most beautiful wedding in the world. My purpose is not to have the most perfect colors, music, food, or venue for my wedding. My purpose is to live my life for you! Focus my mind and my heart to praising you always. I pray that in the coming months, I would seek after you with more intensity than I seek after perfecting my wedding.

These prayers can easily be changed to reflect anything that you are making a priority in your life. We should live in a way that we are constantly removing the focus from ourselves and putting it on our Father who deserves it so much more. I am praying that I would stop looking at myself and begin looking toward the Father in every situation. 

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