For the Woman Who Thinks She's Not Enough

Monday, July 25, 2016

I wish I could come to this blog and write about how perfect my marriage is at all times. I long for the days that I can write about how even-tempered I am, or how I am always slow to anger and rational. The truth is I strive everyday to be the perfect wife in the perfect marriage, and somehow, I always seem to fall short. At the end of an argument, I often find myself wallowing in guilt and self-loathing. (This is my blog, and I am allowed to be a little dramatic.) I become plagued with thoughts like, "Why can't I be a better wife?" I mean, it really shouldn't be so hard to always be nice and friendly to the person you love most, right?

Maybe one day, I will be able to write posts about how perfect my attitude is at all times, and how my words are always encouraging, but today, that is not the case. Today, I am imperfect. Today, I fail. Today, I act like a spoiled brat. Today, I desperately need grace
On days like today I find it hard to imagine myself doing anything of worth for the glory of God. How could I possibly fulfill God's callings on my life if I can't speak kind words to my husband. How could God use someone as hopeless and disobedient as me? As these thoughts begin to surface, I am reminded that my story is not about how perfect a wife I can be. My story is not about how broken or irrational I am. My story is about God's perfection. God takes the broken pieces of us and makes us whole. We do not have to rely on our abilities to be used by God in any area of our life. He can do it all on His own. 

Wives, mothers, children,  take that weight off of your shoulders. Your story is not about how much weight you can carry at any given time. Your story is about nothing more than God's goodness. He knows what He is doing, and He alone is enough.

All Natural Deodorant

Saturday, July 16, 2016

There are many products in our lives that we tend to use out of habit and necessity. We grab the items at the grocery store that smell the best, and appeal to our eyes. For years I grabbed Secret brand deodorant off of the shelf on a regular basis. This was an item I could not live without. And trust me, you wouldn't want me to.

The problem is that many of the ingredients in these drugstore products are questionable carcinogens and allergens. Most deodorants from the drugstore, including my old favorite Secret deodorant, contain talc, aluminum, added fragrances, and more! Something about rubbing those things on to my armpit right next to my lymph nodes just doesn't sit right with me. But are there really all natural products out there that hold up all day long?

The first "healthier", non-aluminum deodorant that I purchased was Nourish Organics in the scent Wild Berries (I have since discontinued this deodorant because it contains added fragrances). I am pretty sure my coworkers hated me the week I started using this product. An hour into the day, my body odor was noticeable, and with summer quickly approaching, this was not okay! In the meantime, my hands landed back on the drugstore alternatives. I purchased more all natural products that still did not hold up to my body odor. After a miserable (for my husband) trip to the zoo in the southern heat, I knew there had to be a better answer for this B.O.

Enter armpit detox.

Seriously, don't stop reading! After some research, I found that our armpits need to be detoxed of all of the nasty chemicals before the all natural deodorants will work.

Underarm Detox:


2 Tablespoons Bentonite Clay
1 tsp apple cider vinegar
coconut oil or water to desired consistency

Combine bentonite clay and apple cider vinegar. Add in coconut oil or water until you reach a paste consistency. Once pasty, rub the mixture on underarms and allow to dry. Once you begin to smell an odor, rinse off the paste and apply an all natural deodorant. Repeat this process once you begin to smell body odor again. Your healthier deodorant will begin to last longer as the toxins from your old deodorants are pulled out. Be patient, and trust me! It works! Eventually, your deodorant will last all day long!

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